Cognitive changes such asmemory lossare a hallmark of dementia, butchallenging behaviorssuch as foul language can also develop.
Understandably, this can be hurtful and embarrassing to this person’s family or friends.
Causes
Dementia is a condition that affects the brain, and the brain controls language.
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Another effect of dementia can be the loss of a filter of which words are spoken.
Psychological (cognitive) triggers may also lead to foul language.
Some of these potential triggers may include delusions and paranoia.
It’s painful to hear someone say something about you that isn’t true.
At the same time, we know that arguing with someone with Alzheimer’s often backfires.
It is important to practice these so that they are at the ready when you need them.
Your calmness may, at times, facilitate a calmness in your loved one.
Try not to take it too personally.
Sometimes this can work, especially if he is in the earlier stages of dementia.
Other times it may be completely ineffective and the foul language may appear to be almost involuntary.
It may take some practice doing this before the words lose their impact on your peace of mind.
Try turning on his favorite baseball team or religious program on the television.
Or play a music recording.
It sometimes helps to regard foul language as the disease talking, rather than your loved one.
Separating behaviors from the person you love can help you avoid personalizing outbursts.
But being out in public can be downright embarrassing.
My companion has Alzheimer’s disease."
This simple explanation can allow you to quickly prevent people from taking offense.
Let compassion direct your actions.
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