“Self-deprecating” means “devaluing your qualities and capabilities.”
Self-deprecation may be used in several ways, which are outlined below.
When used to elicit laughter, self-deprecation usually involves lightheartedly poking fun at yourself rather than genuinely conveying self-criticism.
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It may make the person seem more relatable, or convey a feeling of solidarity.
This strategy is sometimes used by leaders such as politicians.
Some people believe that being self-deprecating about their past may also enhance the image of their present self.
For example, “I don’t mean to be rude, but .
This is done to give the appearance of taking ownership of the problematic statement and head off predicted criticism.
While a common tactic, it is often unsuccessful.
This can be personal, such as making jokes about living with aserious illness.
Finding humor in the negative may help people cope not just in the moment but over time.
When used appropriately, self-deprecating humor can be part of this coping mechanism.
Negative Side of Self-Deprecating Traits
Regular negative self-talk or self-denigration can be associated with depression and anxiety.
It can also be a form ofself-sabotageif others believe the negative things the person says about themselves.
This can feel burdensome for the other person and has the potential to strain relationships.
Responding to Self-Deprecating Communication
How to respond to someone who is using self-deprecation depends on the context.
Coordinating with the self-deprecation could be interpreted as endorsing or legitimizing self-criticism.
Self-deprecating humor without the underlying self-acceptance can create tension rather than relieve it.
It can be used in negative self-talk, humor, increasing likeability, avoiding criticism, and self-protection.
Self-deprecation can be a helpful coping mechanism in difficult situations or circumstances when used appropriately.
Regular or persistent self-deprecation can negatively impact the person’s self-esteem.
Self-deprecating humor works when it is used in a lighthearted way while still being self-accepting.
Self-deprecating humor that is genuinely critical can create tension and discomfort.
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