Many people fear these discussions are a sign of giving up.
However, talking about your wishes does not mean you are giving up at all.
It’s a way to communicate your wishes before circumstances may force you to do so.
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The best place to start is with the most important step.
How can you begin these discussions with your loved ones?
When should you stop treatment?
It also doesn’t necessarily mean that you are stoppingalltreatments.
Loved ones, especially, can find it difficult to cope with these emotions.
There’s a tender balance between holding on to life and letting go.
It can be a wonderful comfort.
Its true that there really isnt away to prepare, at least emotionally.
But there are a few things you may wish to talk about with your loved ones.
Again, initiating these conversations can be very hard and ridden with emotion.
You may even wish to make a few notes about some of your wishes ahead of time.
Addressing Painless Death
One common concern is about pain at the end of life.
Many people are terribly frightened that dying will be painful.
Others worry that using medication will hasten their death and wish to be as alert as possible.
The best time to talk to your healthcare provider is long before the issue arises.
Talk to your family and your oncologist about your wishes.
Some people wish to have as little pain as possible even if they will be drowsy.
Others wish to be as alert as possible, even if they feel more pain.
Choosing a Location
Another concern is about where you wish to spend your last days.
Too often, these preparations are not done and people end up going to the hospital against their wishes.
Would you want to be placed on a ventilator?
you could be as detailed as you wish.
Some people also add information about their wishes for a memorial service if they should die.
Why Prepare These Documents?
There are two very important reasons to prepare these documents.
One reason is for yourself so that your wishes are honored.
They give you a chance to dictate what will happen if you are unable to speak for yourself.
Another reason is for your family.
Hospice Care
The decision about if and when to choose hospice care is emotionally laden.
As with stopping treatment, there is the fear that choosing hospice care means giving up.
Instead, choosing hospice means that you wish to focus your treatment on symptom and pain management.
What Is Hospice Care?
Many people receive hospice care in their own home, though hospice facilities may be available as well.
When Should You Ask for Hospice Care?
How Will Hospice Help?
Many people are amazed at the help available when hospice is instituted.
This can save a lot of running around for your family and make you as comfortable as possible.
Many people want to spend their last days at home, surrounded by loved ones.
Your family can spend time with you until they wish to call the funeral home.
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