Often included as one identity or sexual orientation on the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, asexuality itself is a spectrum.
Research suggests that up to 1% of the population is asexual.
Some people who identify as asexual experience no physical attraction or arousal and have no desire to have sex.
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Some asexual people may enjoy the idea of sex or even sexual fantasies but dont like actually having sex.
Other identities along the asexual spectrum include “aromantic,” gray-a, and “demisexual.”
Some people describe themselves as aromantic, meaning that they dont desire romantic relationships with others.
Being asexual and being aromantic are two different things.
Some people identify as both asexual and aromantic.
People who experience sexual attraction only to people theyre emotionally intimate with may identify as demisexual.
Asexual Reproduction
You may be familiar with the term asexual reproduction.
Its not related to asexuality in human beings in any way.
Some bacteria and plants reproduce asexually.
Nuances in Asexual Attraction
Asexual identity is often misunderstood and even stigmatized.
“Libido” refers to your sex drive, the interest in and desire for sex.
Asexuality is also not a mental health condition or necessarily a sign of trauma.
This is distinct from having an asexual identity or orientation.
An asexual identity is not the same as a lack of sexual activity.
Someone can be asexual and choose to have sex.
What Counts?
Many people wonder what counts as sexual attraction.
What if someone enjoys kissing, but not sexual intercourse?
Does that count as being ace?
The truth is that the definitions of sexual attraction and desire are up to each individual.
Others may choose to engage insexual activityfor various personal, emotional, interpersonal, social, or cultural reasons.
This doesnt necessarily mean they arent asexual themselves.
For example, sexual activity may also include:
Am I Asexual?
Ultimately, whether you identify as asexual or not is up to you.
They can help you go through a process of self-discovery and explore any identity concerns you may have.
Both choices are valid and completely up to you.
Many people prefer to come out first to others who share a similar identity and experiences.
Think about what youd like to say beforehand, so you feel confident when you decide to open up.
In romantic relationships, its best to be upfront and honest about your asexual identity.
Talking about your identity early on can prevent conflicts later.
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