Narcissistic parents may have a set of personality traits that include being self-centered and attention-seeking.
Narcissism isnt a diagnosis; it refers to a set of personality traits.
Characteristics of narcissistic parents may include the following.
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They also tend to focus more on their own feelings than those of other people.
Admitting to their own mistakes or flaws may shatter their already unstable view of themselves.
Often, their self-esteem isn’t high enough to handle setbacks.
In this way, they can exert control over you.
Withholding love is a way for them to instill fear to further control you.
Ups and downs are to be expected.
When in any relationship with a narcissist, its good to prioritize self-care and emotional well-being.
Thats because the finger has likely always been pointed in your direction.
Reminding yourself that you may never win can prevent frustration and disappointment.
Trying to change them will only cause you frustration because you’re unlikely to get the result you want.
If they take a stab at cross those boundaries, be assertive.
By being upfront, they can’t act surprised by your reaction.
Seek External Help and Support
Dealing with a narcissistic parent is difficult in many ways.
Lean on friends and loved ones to help you through it.
You dont need to repeat the past.
There is no set treatment plan for children of narcissists.
Depending on their training and services, psychotherapists may offer help in the following ways.
These goals may or may not involve the narcissistic parent; that will be your choice.
It can help you desensitize and reprocess traumatic memories in ways that become more manageable.
Telling your healthcare provider about any signs and symptoms is always a good way to begin the healing process.
However, its never too late to recognize the role narcissism played in your self-development and to change.
Working on healing yourself from damages done, though, will always be worth it.
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